whew, relationships are work!!

Sooooo
This last week I have been stressed over whats going on with The Man. My little brain had in fact jumped to what seemed the most obvious conclusion. It was hard, but I did not go nuts on him and let him open the door when he was ready to talk. It took hours and we communicated entirely by text which is OK. I know from experience that when you have hard things to say it can be easier to text than talk. So when he started sending me vague texts about being stressed out about me I simply listened and encouraged and kept an open mind. Like I said, took awhile, but in a nutshell it boils down to he's feeling a little overwhelmed by the fear of being restricted or confined. I was able to point out examples that show we have a partnership and giving a (limited) amount of control to another person in a relationship is a gift. You chose how much "control" to give up and therefore it is not a restriction. Relationships may be a "chain", but you can chose to take it off any time you want.

I think the reality of this is that The Man has had his mom with him for a couple of weeks now, and she requires allot of guidance and attention. She also, quite honestly, overwhelms him spatially. I mean, that girl can fill a space up!! I don't know where she gets all that clutter, but it was hard on me too. And when I arrive, it will overwhelm him even more until we can get mom her own place. Truthfully, it's not going to be easy for him to deal with. I will help as much as I can, but he will have to help himself.

But, hopefully, I've managed to calm him down.